We SHOW it how we KNOW it

Have you ever been upset because of an expectation you put on someone and they didn't deliver?  Whether we were aware about this put-on expectation or not?

I can say that I have and it was this moment of awaking to it that I realized it was me who was causing this suffering, not the other person.

When we put something in another persons hands and are attached to the outcome, we are setting ourselves up for possible and probable suffrage.  Some people deliver and others don't.

My awakening thought to this phenomena was, "How can we expect someone to do something when they may not know how to do it?"

This question goes a lot deeper than what you just read, think about the ending to that statement, "they may not know how to do it" (according to our expectation of it) in this particular case I am talking about love

Our expectation of how something should be done is what causes our suffering.

To better explain let me give you a personal experience I had with this.

Through my childhood and into my teenage years, I had a father who showed his love through money and at this time I was not aware that this is not how I feel love from someone.  We always went out to eat, had the nicest things, amazing gifts for christmas, went on cruises, and the list goes on...all money driven.  Now, I'm not saying this is bad whatsoever, I enjoyed every moment thoroughly with him, my step mom, and half brother, until my early twenties when that money was gone and those experiences slowly settled.

I am someone who values communication of ones feelings towards another.  We all receive and give love in different ways and this is what led me to the phrase, "we show it how we know it".

For years I wished my father had shown me love in the way (I) wanted him to, key word, "I".  This is the underlying expectation I put upon him to deliver love in the way I wanted him to.  You see everyone, not everyone is going to express to you the way you want it to be, or do something in a way you want it to be done.  We act and deliver on the basis of what we know from past experiences.

So I offer us this, keep in mind that people show love how they know love.  Our expectations can keep us from experiencing authentic and raw love in the form of how the other person knows it which may or may not be in alignment with how we want it to be.  What we can do is show them unconditional love and put love into our hands and have the expectation that they are showing it the best way they know how.

How and what we feel should never be in the hands of another person, if there is any lesson we can take away from this, it is to love without conditions (expectations), and bring to light the mantra, "we show it how we know it".

Namaste my friends.

Simple and Sweet

I had an AH-HA moment today while driving and it truly reminded me how simple it is to live a life of unconditional happiness regardless of the conditions present.

As I begin to tell you what this AH-HA moment was, promise yourself that you won't just see its simplicity but more so admire its power.

Backstory:
I was driving down I-25 today (a major highway) and found myself behind a car that was going at least 15 mph below the speed limit and I thought to myself, "Why is this person going so slow?  Speed up!" my mind was relaying.  I was becoming slightly irritated and wanting to rip around him, to which I did.  After passing him and what not, I kept finding myself fixated on how slow this person was going and blah blah blah bah...all of this unecessary attention towards something that was completely out of my control.  You know what was in my control?  This was my AH-HA! moment...I was reminded that the way I respond is what I will experience.

Since I responded in a way that could be seen as lower vibration, I began to create more of this in the form of thought with proceeding statements such as, "what the hell is this person doing?  Get out of the way", Etc.  Luckily I became aware of how I was responding and switched my focus elsewhere.

What we can learn from all this is that 1, how we respond is what we will experience, and 2, awareness is a vital component of this particular experience and all experiences really.  Without awareness how can we respond in a different manner if we don't see it?  Break the old conditioned responses to situations and people, then you shall create new and more than likely, better experiences.

"Life isn't as difficult as we sometimes see it, the thing is, we are generally blinded by old conditioned frames of perception and must clean our lens to see it alternate possibilities."  -JB

Become what you are

In order for us to become what we are, we must first unbecome everything we think we are...key word, THINK.

How many times have we thought one thing and turns out we were completely wrong?  Life isn't about us being right or wrong, it is understanding that right and wrong are parts of duality where our minds are able to take form through identifying with different types of form such as material objects and thoughts to name a few.

We are living in a consumer driven society where "more" is an over-lived mindset.  I believe however that it is not our faults we inevitably identify with form because it is EVERYWHERE and in EVERYTHING.  It almost seems inevitable that we identify with form to create our sense of self, a fallacious one at that.  How many times have we looked at a car and somehow felt identified with it or even identified with being a particular person who acts a certain way because thats what we want to be identified as.

The most enlightening act we can do right now is review our sense of self, who are we?  See the things we are identified with and identify ourselves as.

Back to the process of unbecoming everything we think we are.  From my personal experience and self study, I have found truth in a few avenues of life that I would like to share with you.  Please do not take what I say as an absolute truth because the only absolute is that no truth is absolute, it is purely individual.

Don't be afraid to call yourself out.  There is no judgement and if you feel judged at anytime while reviewing your sense of self, remember, that is ego speaking, NOT YOU!  Spirit and Soul do not judge, they accept and forgive, always.  When we begin to see who we are not, it brings us closer to what we are...CONSCIOUS AWARENESS.  We are all form, composed of atoms, thoughts, and mostly empty space.  Nonetheless, our purest state is awareness.  This is where faith and faith alone unlocks the infinite and abundant power of the Universe or (Multiverse).  Awareness cannot be seen, it must be felt and experienced.  The feeling of awareness for me is when I notice what I am shifting my attention towards like catching yourself in the act of judging someone or speaking unkindly to yourself is an act of awareness as well.  See what you are doing and then change it if it is not serving you, which I believe everything serves us in one way or another but that is just a personal truth of mine.

We are not our stories, we are just identified with them.  We are not out emotions, we feel our emotions.  We are not our thoughts, we are the awareness of them.

Notice the difference between the two voices that speak to you.  When you contemplate thoughts within your mind, who is the other voice of reason?..or the voice of Wisdom I should say.

When you get to a point where you are aware that you are aware, that my friends is when you are onto something bigger than the ego can handle.

Live detached but stay connected my friends.