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E.verything
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B.est
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Imagine if this phrase was part of your philosophy.  We all have a particular way we view the world.  These can be known as programs.  They are generally past experiences that have been experienced time and time again either with conscious effort or unconscious non-intentional effort.  These programs range from certain behaviors, thoughts, and responses to life.  An example is if someone were to get angry with you and you immediately said sorry.  This program is one where in the past, you might have or not have something wrong and another person told you to apologize.  Time and time again, this became your natural response to any time something bad happened that you were part of.  Another example is one I personally have witnessed within myself and am taking action to reprogram it...however, when I feel I am not naturally good at something, I tend to not pursue it, or I get aggravated with it.  I owe this to an un-intentional programming from mostly my family where they instilled in me time and time again that I was a "natural".  Therefore, it became a program of belief that I was in fact a natural.  Like any sword however, there are two sides to the same blade and this program became one that had also a negative outcome in which I still experience to this day.

You see, our programs and conditionings run DEEP, like so deep we may not even be aware of them. To make light of this, just know, we have the ability to break any program or conditioning.  Thats the exciting part!  Nonetheless, it takes awareness, ideally in the moment to recognize how you are responding to the world.  This will help shed light on the corners within us we have never explored or potentially even knew existed.

Currently, I am revisiting some material that has helped me immensely in the reconditioning of certain behaviors, thoughts, etc.  As stated above, acknowledging your programs in the moment is the most ideal place to limit its power, that is of course if this is a program you no longer want to live life from.  There are tons of positive programs out there :)  Take a moment and think about the parts of you that you enjoy and others may have brought to light for you...Through certain techniques, we can relinquish ourselves of thoughts and behaviors that do not serve us and others while also filling that space with something more favorable and optimal for life.

Again, acknowledging your program or conditioned response in the moment is most ideal but this takes loads of practice and in increased awareness.  Meditation helps with this.  However, if you are fortunate enough to have a partner who is able to call out your BS, (such as my wife) then that partner can help aid in your evolution and refinement of consciousness.  In short, spend some time thinking about how you respond to life.  Is it pessimistically?  Positively?  Selfishly? There are probably TONS of different ways you respond depending on the situation.  However, there is generally certain affirmations or philosophies we live by that encompass most of our responses and behaviors.

At the very beginning of this post, I wrote out one of my life's philosophies; Everything That Happens Is the Greatest Thing That Can Happen.  For me, it has taken some time to find a phrase that resonates with my Heart and softly resides within my mind and gently guides my response to life.  You can see that this phrase is extremely optimistic.  Thats what I have chosen.  This is the kind of energy I want to have backing my behaviors and thoughts.  It has taken time to embed this in my subconscious mind which is the autopilot of life.  We don't have to consciously act on it because through the act of conscious effort, it has become a program.  The next question is HOW do we do this.

Well, it takes time, courage, persistence, and moments of perseverance.

Generate a meditative practice.  
Discover stillness first.  
Being relaxed and soft helps in the attraction and retention of the energy you seek.  
Pick a phrase that feels good and you 100% believe in.

Example; if you feel you are a bad person, switch the narrative into "I am a good person".  Keep it simple.  Another example being, if you feel you are dismissive to your spouses feelings, say something like, "I am compassionate towards and accepting of my spouses feelings".

Depending on your situation, you can notice that the above examples are about switching and moving into the opposite of what is currently happening in your life.  Like I have said, it's best to acknowledge and refine in the moment or take time to get still and resolve it then.

Most important part is to be gentle with yourself.  We are in this together.  Comparison is the thief of joy so make sure to stay focused on your process.  We all process differently.  Discover what works best for you, find a phrase that feels GOOD, and repeat to yourself or out loud your affirmation as often as you can!

In good health, Jace