Our potential to be free

"We must learn to see things as they are, not how we want them to be".

Let me ask you this...have you ever been in a relationship where you wanted someone to be, do, or act a certain way?  I know I have.  This is handing over our power to this individual in which a potential let down could and probably would occur.  Sometimes these people can at least for a moment be, do, or act a certain way for us but it may not be authentic for some, they just really may not have the tools, experience, or knowledge to perform what it is we want them to be or do.  Is this their fault?  Not at all, they are who they are generally doing the best they know how.  I have a previous submission called, "we show it how we know it", that is very aligned with what I am speaking about here.

Now, this is just one example.  It's more common for us to see people as a reflection of ourselves or idealizing them to be and act a certain way.  How is this even fair though?  We are holding these expectations and more so expecting them to follow through with it with sometimes not even relaying to them what it is we want.  This is beyond the point though.

Seeing things, or in this instance, people as they are requires a level of seeing yourself for who you are.  Do you know who you are?  Beyond age, beyond numbers, beyond what you do, who are you?

Remember, we generally see others as a reflection of ourselves and our internal workings.  Maybe we want things to be a certain way because its what would make us most happy?  If this is the case, that seems a little irresponsible doesn't it?, to lay out external expectations that we have absolutely no control over and get upset or irritated when it doesn't go through?

We must become aware of what our motifs are into why we are expecting things to be a certain way when the only certainty is that things will go the way they are supposed to, not how you want them to.

You see, idealizing a situation is a product future thinking.  We are anticipating the experience to be a certain way.  When we move ourselves deeper into the present moment, freedom occurs.  Freedom from the constraints of anticipation.  Our potential to be free unlocks and an easeness blankets the moment.  We no longer have this angst within us worrying about whether or not this situation is going to go how you hope or this person will act the way you want them to behave.  We have no control over this.

When we surrender control and allow things to be as they are, we become free.